blessings from God

Last night I was at home watching a movie with Don and the rest of the family. I am pretty sure it was a Christmas movie, yet I can’t remember the name. It was the typical man and woman meet and fall in love movie. Yet, near the end of the movie, there was one statement that really hit home for me.

You see in all my failed relationships, the other person has always pointed the failure towards me, yet I never felt the failure was completely my fault. The men in my life have always tried to make me feel that I was the problem, that it wasn’t them. They have told me that I would continue to find the same problems over and over because, well, that problem was me.

Honestly, I was beginning to believe them. Then Donald came along and he has worked to change my thinking. Trust me, it’s been really hard for him to do but this movie confirmed what he’s told me since we met.

You see, it was never me that was the problem. It wasn’t really them that was the problem either. The real problem was that these guys I was with were never meant for me. Since they weren’t right for me, our relationships could never work. It wasn’t anything either of us did, it was simply the wrong person for me to be with.

Now I know that’s easy to see now but it wasn’t so easy to see when I was with them. And walking away doesn’t make it easy to see when you have been told over and over that you are the problem. Sometimes it takes a HUGE wake-up call, like hearing it said straight out in a random movie, to make you realize, “Hey, I’m not the problem here!”

We can never be happy with the wrong person. God created us each to be unique and He created each of us to fit one other unique individual. That individual is our other half, the love of our life, our soulmate.

I’m blessed to have truly found mine, to know of his love for me, for my children, for our family and our life together. Sure things aren’t always perfect because we’ve both been brainwashed by being in the wrong relationship before finding one another and finding our right relationship, but we work hard to heal and love and move forward together. We are learning to forgive, to depend on each other and to embrace our life as it should be with one another.

When love is right, it’s just right. You know it wholeheartedly. I’m so thankful to have found my love in Don and also to have found this healing piece of truth from something so simple as this.

Until next time…

Lately, I’ve had a lot of thoughts that I have wanted to turn into blog posts but by the time I get here, I forget what I have to say. I feel God speaking to me, asking me to speak out, yet I keep putting it off. Bear with me as I try to catch up with my emotions and brain.

All over the internet, I see Mother’s complain about being Mothers. I am also guilty of complaint. Many of today’s women don’t see the Glory they have in the job of raising God’s children. They see their wants and needs above that of their young.

I often see Mother’s who cling to the ideals of the life they are missing. I hear comments on how they need a break or to simply go out. Yes, a break is a nice thing to have. I completely agree but honestly, it’s time to bring the Glory of God back into your home by embracing and loving on the babies He has gifted you.

There comes a time in life when you must grow up and realize what you are missing out on by going out every Friday or Saturday night. Making excuses to do so is just that, an excuse to escape what you were meant to do. And why? Because you claim you are too stressed out to continue.

What if you changed that thought though? What if you began to see JOY in your life and in your children? I read online the other day a comment that said to place your hand over your heart and feel the beat, to feel your purpose and know you are alive for a reason. And you are.

Your purpose as a Mother is to RAISE your children, to provide them the teachings of the Lord (or of your beliefs if they differ from mine). Your purpose as a Mother is to educate your children in the right way and how to avoid the wrong ways. It is not to pass your children off to someone else so you can do as you please. Those days left when you chose to have a child, adopt a child, or even become a parent to a child that isn’t yours. Those days left when God chose you to do this important job for him.

This is a JOB, not a HOBBY. This is a REQUIREMENT, not an OPTION. You cannot just be a parent when you chose. Once you are a Mother you are a Mother forever. Your children should be what you HAPPILY choose to live for, not what you dread.

Children are God’s Light, shining every moment of the day. They are a joy to have around. You only have them a short time. Do you really want them to remember you as a parent who simply shoved them off? Or do you want them to have memories of a Mother who followed God’s orders and gave them the love and grace He himself gives each of us daily? I’m personally aiming for the later. What about you?

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