They say when you’ve arrived, you have haters. Well Baby, Here I am!
But then I’ve had haters for a while now. I have readers who are extremely obsessed with me and with my life, who stalk me online, who post on my social media until they’ve been blocked, then somehow find a way to comment even after that. I’ve removed commenting from my profile because of their personal obsession and vindictive behaviors.
But let me point out, I am not the one who is stalking them, commenting on their social media profiles or even thinking about them every waking minute of my day. I don’t need to – their lives are insignificant to mine.
I live my life daily and I’m pretty proud of who I am.
Recently, I collaborated on a great book project that has released on Amazon. I, along with 15 other authors, share our stories of abuse, or hatred just like this person is doing to me, of being torn down only to overcome what we faced to move forward with our lives and keep going. We share about how we overcome our struggles, how others treated us, and how we’ve moved on to become the persons that we each are today.
Y’all my haters have found me there and they are determined to prove that I am a liar. I really don’t understand this ridiculous obsession with me. The comments left just go to show the abuse I’ve endured is true. I have never hidden anything about my past. If someone asks me, I share it. I’ve used my personal stories to help others. And those closest to me were there to verify what happened, as well as the photos I took to document bruises and abuse I went through with each of my exes.
The thing is that abuse doesn’t stop when you leave a place, and it doesn’t stop just because you block someone on social media. Obsession with someone is real. Seeking to destroy a person because you feel wronged, that’s real, too. Trying to destroy a person because you don’t want them to be successful out of your own spitefulness. And this obsessive stalking of me is just one more part of what I do deal with in my real life on a day to day basis.
That said, it’s not going to stop me from speaking out. There’s a lot more to my story that I didn’t share in the book. There is a lot more to my story that has yet to be written as well. I am not going to be bullied by someone who simply cannot let go or has a need to prove my story isn’t true. If you could do that, you would have already – you can’t so just stop.
The 15 other authors in this story don’t deserve a bad review just because you have issues with my story. The 15 other authors deserve top reviews for sharing these deep thoughts about who they are. But instead petty vindictiveness caused them to receive a low review just because it can be done. And when that one was deleted this obsessed individual wrote another in it’s place. That’s not fair to these individuals.
Cyber bullying is a real thing, y’all. I’ve spoken of it before. The laws against it are lax. And it drives people to suicide every day. That’s the truth of the realness of this kind of obsessive behavior.
For me, I choose to speak out against it, as just another part of my story. I chose to share it for you all to read and not hide in horror because it’s happened to me. This person obviously has a deep hatred of me, is suffering from their own mental health issues and needs help. I feel for them. I would help them if I could but this kind of help is one I cannot personally give. Medications are out there that help control obsessive behaviors, that help with mental stability when you have this type of mental health issues. I truly hope this person seeks help.
And if this happens to you, don’t give up hope. I have a whole team of authors and personal friends who stand beside and support me in my story, in my writing and in my day to day life. I won’t let them down by allowing anyone to continue tearing me down. My life and my story mean more than a couple of abusive comments online. My purpose in sharing it is to help others and that’s my continued hope for all my collaborative projects.
If you or someone you know are a victim of Domestic Violence please reach out the the National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1-800-799-7233
If you or someone you know are a in need of Mental Health assistance, you can reach out to the National Suicide Hotline at: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or visit their website at MentalHealth.gov
To learn more about Cyberbullying and Bullying in general, visit: StopBullying.gov